The One Thing All Empaths Need to Know

Are you an empath? If you find that you absorb other people's emotions, feel their pain more than the rest of the world and find that people are always drawn to you when they're struggling, then there's a good chance that you are.

Empaths are people who are tuned into other people's emotions, and much more deeply than the rest of the world. 

We genuinely feel people's feelings, their pain, their sadness, their depression, their desperation, their joy...

We feel our own feelings very deeply too, and sometimes the two can get muddled leaving us feeling overwhelmed and unable to clearly know what is going on in our own hearts.

There is a very important lesson that we empaths need to learn in order to stay happy, sane and feel emotionally balanced every day, and it's this: 

Other people's feelings are not your feelings

It may sound obvious, but when you're an empath this is actually a tricky one. Your incredible gift of empathy makes you like a sponge for feelings. If the person next to you is sad, then you start to feel sad too. 

When a partner, friend or colleague is suffering you can find your initial sympathy turning into a waterfall of painful emotions about a situation that may not even involve you in the slightest. Then even when you've stopped thinking about it, the feelings might not go away because being an empath, you've absorbed them. You've actually assimilated them into your being as if they were your own.

Feeling sorry for somebody is natural, but we empaths actually tune into the person's energy and somehow absorb it  - we can get swept away on a tidal wave of powerful emotions as if we were experiencing the problem or situation ourselves. Even if we've forgotten the conversation, the emotions can remain within us for days, weeks, months making us feel low, sad or depressed without any obvious cause. That's when we can really get into trouble.

High empathy can be a wonderful trait, and it makes us extremely understanding and kind friends who really "get it" when you tell us your woes, but speaking as a seasoned empath, this gift is truly a double edged sword, and that blade is sharp!

In my younger years I spent years wondering in vain why I always felt so emotionally unstable. What the heck was wrong with me?! 

It all made sense when I started to unravel the truth that a big part of the rollercoaster I was experiencing was made up of other people's feelings - not my own.

I learned a valuable psychic technique to separate my energy and feelings from those of people around me, or that I had encountered, and in an instant my natural calm was back. 

Life finally started making more sense.

Feelings are very important messengers when you experience them, and your emotions help you to navigate the waters of life, but only if they are YOURS.

If you made yourself a roadmap of how to get to London, it wouldn't help to be following somebody else's roadmap leading to Manchester now would it? In the same way, feeling other people's emotions isn't something that is particularly helpful to us beyond just being aware of how they feel. 

If we don't know how to separate from them and switch them off, we can find ourselves very much on the wrong route and wondering why.

So my dear empath friends, please make sure that the feelings that are influencing you right now are yours and yours alone!

If not, your deep empathy may land you in more trouble than you bargained for and you can find yourself lost at sea in a torrent of emotion and wondering how on earth you got there. 

No amount of counselling will help you get to the bottom of feelings that aren't yours! 

Take back your power and drop the feelings that aren't meant for you, stat!

I'm going to share the amazing technique I learned to separate your energy from somebody else's in the next blog...

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