Are My Loved Ones in Spirit ok?

"My grandmother passed recently, I just want to check that she's ok"

"I lost my brother in and accident and I need to know he's alright"

These questions are some of the most frequently asked when you're a medium. Many people come to me to communicate with loved ones who have passed on either naturally, from an illness or sometimes in tragic circumstances, and the one thing I get asked the most is whether they are alright?

I just want to address this today, because this can be a great worry to many people who are left behind when a family member, spouse, partner, friend, sibling or loved one passes.

I want to bring some reassurance to anyone who has recently lost somebody that yes, your loved one is safe and well in the spirit world.

When somebody passes, they move to a different reality that we call the 'spirit world.' It's a beautiful place, and we've all been there at least once before coming here to be born on earth. 

It's a place that you might call "heaven" depending on your own personal beliefs.

What happens to my loved one when they die?

I will try to answer this to the best of my understanding, but please remember that as human beings it isn't possible for us to fully understand what happens when we pass over.

The way it was explained to me in my mediumship training, and has been confirmed in my own experience conversing with spirit people, is that when your soul leaves the body and passes to the spirit world, there are some changes that happen.

There is no pain on the other side. There is no suffering. Some mediums may describe people as going to a "hospital" to be rehabilitated when they pass over, particularly if they had a very difficult or traumatic lifetime or a sudden passing. As I understand it, this is a simplified way of explaining in human terms that our souls leave behind the trauma, pain and suffering that they experienced in life.

Are people punished when they die?

In a word, no. That's not the point.

When souls return to the spirit world, they carry the experience of that lifetime they have just experienced, but they do not retain the personality traits, ego or human aspect. They return to a purer and higher level of being.

Bad habits, judgement and anger are left behind and during communication with a medium, many express remorse for the pain and suffering they may have caused in that lifetime. 

What about karma?

Karma is not a penal system. It's not about crime and punishment!

Your karma is the total of your experiences, good and bad. If you have been what may be considered to be a "bad" person in previous lifetimes, then your soul may well choose to come back in another lifetime to experience being the victim of a bad person so they can understand what it is like to be on both sides. 

This isn't about punishment or revenge, just experience and understanding.

Life is just about experiencing many different things, and that is unique for each person in each lifetime. It's all part of our individual soul's path and our souls aren't punished for perceived wrongdoing on a human level. 

Is my loved one still with me?

When souls pass to the other side, they do have the option to travel wherever they want to in the world and visit whoever they wish. It's very common for people in spirit to come back to visit, to keep and eye on and even try to comfort their loved ones who are grieving their loss. 

You may have "felt" the person in the room or with you at some point, then I would advise you to trust that feeling. If you feel they are there supporting, protecting and loving you, then they are! We all have natural intuitive abilities that pick up on these things, even if we don't fully realise it or don't call ourselves 'psychic.' It can be easier to sense the presence of a loved one who has passed over because their energy is familiar to us. 

You may have had dreams of your loved one after they have passed, and again this is a common way for them to visit. Many people who have passed to the spirit world will visit their loved ones in dreams because it's easier for them to communicate that way, not least because the conscious mind is effectively "switched off" and unable to block them out or convince you it's not happening!

I need to tell them something

Another thing I am asked a lot is how to communicate with your loved ones in spirit, and tell them things you want them to know. Thankfully, this is easy because when you think of them, and intend for information to be passed to them, they will hear you. We are all connected energetically whether in spirit or incarnate, so you can reach out to them with your loving thoughts and updates! Your loved one may already be aware, because very often they will be keeping a loving eye on you and your family from the spirit world. Grandmothers in particular tend to stay close and look out for the grandchildren!

If you are looking for two way communication or reassurance, you can ask a medium to help you with that.

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Interestingly, the top thing that spirit people usually want to convey is that they are alright and that they love you.

If you have lost a loved one, please know that they love you, they forgive you for any wrong doing and that they are no longer suffering or in pain .

They may not be with you in the physical world anymore, but they are always with you in spirit.